Are You In A Sexless Relationship?
First of all it’s important to understand that every relationship goes through good times and hard times. What’s important is what you do in those hard times. (The good times are easy - just don’t get addicted to them!)
First of all it’s important to understand that every relationship goes through good times and hard times. What’s important is what you do in those hard times. (The good times are easy just don’t get addicted to them)
In those difficult times the easiest and what often feels like the safest thing sometimes is to switch off and retreat into your own space however this only isolates you both further.
Then what you are left with is a friendship. However it’s barely a friendship because you are no longer connected with each other.
Of course everyone experiences Peaks and troughs (just don’t let the troughs become dried up river beds)
Why is sex so important?
Let’s be clear we are talking about ‘good sex’ here. Not fast, straight to the point, selfish sex. Sex where you both feel pleasured and satisfied!
When you have good sex how do you feel? Let alone in yourself but with or about your partner? It connects you in so many ways and different levels than just the physical right? You feel open, connected, loving, relaxed and alive (At least for a few seconds before he rolls over and goes to sleep)
If you are not having sex then the opposite is true. You may be feeling rejected, isolated, unwanted, undesirable or unattractive, sad, hurt and so on.
People then make up all sorts of excuses to justify not having sex. “I’m just not a sexual person” or “I just don’t feel like it lately” or I’m not physically attracted to them anymore”
I am going to call bullshit!
In the beginning it was likely very different. I’m positive there would have been feelings of attraction and excitement the first time your hands touched or the first time you kissed. It is absolutely possible to reignite that spark in ANY relationship. It takes work though.
SO what to do? Communicate with each other. GET HELP!!! Seek out relationship coaching for the underlying problems and a tantric coach for sexual help. Can’t afford it? You can’t afford not to!
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